Meaning of dreams about oral sex, fellatio, blow jobs

Interpret the meaning of dreams about oral sex and fellatio

Let’s delve into a subject most of us enjoy. Sex. Specifically, oral sex. What does it mean to dream about oral sex?

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Dreaming about oral sex

Fellatio has so many possibilities for symbolism and meaning. It can connect with subjects related to sex, but you really have to expand your mind and think in terms of symbolism and uses in storytelling.

Begin with the simplest way of describing fellatio as taking the penis into the mouth. That can mean taking in the essence or strength of a man, or taking in masculinity, making it part of you in the most personal sense. It can mean talking about sex. Think about it: an oral activity involving the phallus. It’s not such a stretch when you think of it as a physical representation that combines a possibility of the symbolism of the mouth (talking) and the penis (sex).

Here’s a great example. A woman dreams about giving fellatio to her ex-boyfriend. The penis grows longer and bigger till its jammed down her throat. If you know that her ex is being a “big dick” about the breakup, and she feels like he’s shoving the situation down her throat, the metaphor is obvious.

Or, the same imagery could symbolize someone talking incessantly about blow jobs. Yeah, you know the guy. He probably wears a t-shirt that reads “It doesn’t suck itself, what are you waiting for?”

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Oral sex and fellatio can symbolize getting intimate with a subject, situation or person. For example, fellatio can symbolize “taking in” knowledge and information—especially subjects related to communication, sex, or masculinity.

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Getting to know a person intimately can be symbolized as oral sex, especially when talking is involved. For example, during a conversation you and a friend reveal your most intimate thoughts and feelings. Then you dream that night about doing 69 with that friend. The same idea applies to learning a skill, especially an artistic skill that’s close to  your heart, because giving good oral sex is an art as well as a skill. It involves technique and also a subtle understanding of the body and pleasure. Learning a skill also can involve technique and subtle understanding.

Conversely, bad oral can symbolize awkwardness or lack of mastery or understanding. But hey, at least you’re trying! What’s the old saying? “Any head is better than…”

Dreaming about playing musical instruments like the trumpet and clarinet can be symbolized as fellatio because the mouth is involved and music has many associations with sex. Making a living by playing an instrument with one’s mouth is literally a “blow job.” Dreams are known for creating word plays like that. Conversely, dreaming about playing an instrument with your mouth can symbolize giving oral.

Fellatio in a dream can connect with subjects such as giving or getting pleasure, or getting comfortable with the body—oral sex requires a certain comfort level. It can connect with concerns about being a good lover. Giving oral sex requires delicacy, and fear of being too rough can show in exaggerated dream imagery of hurting or mangling your lover’s penis.

Giving fellatio with confidence in a dream can symbolize ability to take control of a situation, including but not exclusive to sexual situations. It can mean you know what you want and how to get it.

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Giving or getting oral sex in public can be associated with public performance and privacy. After all, you are said to “perform” oral sex and performance is closely associated with public attention and recognition. Oral sex in public can symbolize wanting or receiving public attention or recognition. If you dream that the attention is unwanted, it can symbolize unwanted attention or a feeling of intrusion.

Taking the idea farther, fellatio—whether in public or private—is associated with reward. The “birthday blow job” captures this idea. For a married man whose partner no longer gives him fellatio like he or she used to, dreaming about getting a blow job can symbolize an unexpected surprise or a return to the “good old days” of a relationship. It can mean breaking a routine or doing something out of the usual.

If oral sex is interrupted in a dream it can mean you didn’t finish something you started, or you are having issues related to finding privacy to have sex, look at porn, or masturbate.

Dreaming about oral sex can connect with the subject of control

Fellatio puts the giver in a position of control. “Control through submission” has a complex psychology that’s often learned through years of dealing with abuse, powerlessness or unpredictability. Though to be clear, it can be learned simply as a strategy for getting what you want.

For example, learning how to deal with an alcoholic parent can involve making the person think they are in control when actually their control or authority is subverted or undermined. The person in the submissive position can use submission to reverse the power dynamic, and dreams can symbolize control as being in control while giving or getting oral sex.

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Because sex can be used as means of manipulation, fellatio can be associated with taking control through manipulation. Dreams that use the symbolism this way will sometimes be accompanied by themes of seeking freedom. For example, you dream that to get out of prison you have to give fellatio to a guard.

On the other hand, giving fellatio can be associated with pure submission or dominance. The symbolism is captured by the ways derogatory statements use references to fellatio. If someone says, “Suck my dick, bitch,” it means, “You will submit to me. I dominate you.”

For example, a woman who was mercilessly bullied in high school dreams of being trapped and forced to give fellatio to one of her tormentors. She does it and bites off the member. The scene is graphic, with blood and vomiting. Her tormentor just laughs, as if he expected her reaction. The dream illustrates how the dreamer is still tormented by the bullying she experienced, and she nurses thoughts of revenge. However, it only makes her relive the past and continue to experience life-wrecking emotions.

A young man dreams that his girlfriend has a penis and she forces him to suck it. The dream occurs after she accuses him of being selfish about sex and an all-around awful person, psychologically beating him down, and the more aggressive she gets, the more he grovels. It makes him feel like crap about himself. Sucking her penis is a way of saying he is submissive to her.

More complex psychology comes into play when you consider that fellatio in modern times has come to be associated with instant gratification. It is “safe sex” in the sense that it can be done with no commitment. You don’t even have to take your clothes off. These associations can be used by dreams to symbolize situations where a person takes shortcuts, plays it safe, or makes compromises.

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Some people consider fellatio and oral sex to be “dirty” or “forbidden,” in which case dreaming about it can be an expression of guilt, regret, blemish, humiliation, rebellion or defilement. Before the turn of the century, fellatio was associated with taking risks and breaking taboos. However, the banality of the blow job in modern Western culture has largely erased this association.

Giving fellatio to multiple partners can symbolize taking on multiple subjects or tasks at once. It is sometimes interpreted as the desire to have multiple sexual partners.

Autofellatio—i.e. sucking your own dick—in a dream can symbolize masturbation, because masturbating to fantasies of getting fellatio is, in a sense, giving yourself head.

Symbols for fellatio include eating a hot dog or banana, smoking a cigar, milking a cow’s teat, licking and sucking a Popsicle, and swinging a bat.

For example, a gay male who recently started having sex with men dreams about eating a hot dog and finding a public hair on it, a rather obvious reference to oral sex.

See also my post about the meaning of penis in dreams. It has a few examples of dream about giving head.

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I'm the author of "Dreams 1-2-3: Remember, Interpret, and Live Your Dreams," and "The Dream Interpretation Dictionary: Symbols, Sign and Meanings." At reddit.com I'm known as RadOwl. I began studying dreams in the early 1990s and delved into all major schools of thought, especially the writings of Carl Jung.

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15 Responses

  1. Felix Horatio says:

    I searched for the symbolic meaning of fellatio and found this right away which I consider to be a bullseye. Your wisdom in these matters is clear and your ability to navigate symbolic relationships in daily experiences is welcome indeed. How much do you consider active daydreaming to follow the same sorts of symbolic rules? For instance, my curiosity was driven by my interest in my own relationship to giving head which I did anonymously in the past. I now play out those fantasies by watching fellatio-related porn of all gender varieties. [I love oral and get to practice on my wife often!] I’ve gained much understanding about myself since those years of riskier behaviors – much of which has been aided by my increased understanding of the difference between sexual identity and gender identity and my increased comfort with myself as a submissive husband in a heterosexual relationship who has arrived at a sense of himself/myself as gender queer to a degree. When I watch these videos, I identify with the giver. Sometimes, there’s shaming involved, often the themes are misogynistic by nature. I view this as using fantasy to play out my emotional complexities around the idea of fellatio as giving/submissive behavior with the shame being leftover from a childhood of emotional neglect. So, I’m basically healthy, right? I can feel really guilty sometimes for giving my attention to misogynistic material especially. Yet, I feel this is part of my balance as a very caring, giving husband who also is incredibly grateful for being a stay-at-home parent. My societal-related (lack of) power issues compound themselves often! Thanks for the forum to share these thoughts and questions.

    • RadOwl says:

      Daydreaming is an extension of dreaming. How “dream-like” it truly is depends on your ability to avoid rational judgement while daydreaming. Both dreaming and daydreaming use the same brain cells and faculties of the mind. They’re essentially the same, except while asleep and dreaming the rational mind and senses are shut off for the most part. It’s more of a fully immersive experience.

      This post about oral sex is quite popular and I think that’s due in part to it being a subject that’s not explored from the perspective of symbolism and as an experience that teaches you something about yourself. When I wrote it I wondered if I went too deep into the dominance, submission, giving/receiving and control aspects of oral sex. But your feedback tells me I’m on the right track.

      Dreams like to address these hidden dynamics. Thank you for your feedback and I wish you the best as a stay at home dad. Remember, it doesn’t make you any less of a man. In fact, it takes more maturity to allow your nurturing, gentle side to show. We’re in an age when gender roles are being redefined. It’s still tough sometimes to feel like you’re on the outside of the norm. I suggest that you embrace it and think of yourself as the vanguard for a new understanding of masculinity. You are still every bit as much of a man as other males.

      • Felix Horatio says:

        Thanks for the encouraging words. It never hurts to hear, though I do reflect on those exact sentiments and my wife is quite grateful for the support she gets to be as successful as she is providing further validation. It can be a lonely place considering there aren’t a lot of men in my position much less wanting to share their feelings about it. Yet, it is changing ever so slowly.
        As for the daydreaming, I think of it as more than a hobby – and not just when self-pleasuring. I lived in a very fantasy-oriented world as a child to buffer myself from harshness in my surroundings. I am now working on writing fiction. I’ve developed a YA, sci-fi scenario that postulates a set of dimensions inherent in our reality through which our consciousness can travel and which also is the medium in which dreams occur. So, the Jungian understanding of symbolic interpretation of dreams means much to me. Daydreaming is a function I’ve learned to recognize and try not to interfere with once I recognize its presence. When I find myself drawn to certain scenarios, I allow myself to semi-consciously pursue them from time to time. Sometimes, I’ll take a break and attempt to engage myself in restarting the daydreaming as a way of free associating into a meditative meta-state. For this reason, I try not to fear the directions of my dreams whether awake or asleep. Still, it can be disturbing.
        Obviously, coming across your blogs and your very like-minded approach to practical applications of symbolic dream interpretation is wonderfully encouraging! You have a new follower.

        • RadOwl says:

          Two things. Thank you thank you thank you. And two, be sure to check out The Art of Dreaming by Carlos Castaneda. It will inform your fiction writing and perhaps give you more great ways of using daydreaming.

  2. Alien says:

    I dreamt that I was giving oral sex to about three guys, I don’t remember the other two, but I know for sure that one of them was either the student council president or my friend on the cross country team.
    Either one of those guys would have been strange, as I have an AP Chemistry class with both of them, but I don’t really talk to the stuco president very often. The cross country kid is a good friend of mine, we also have Spanish together, we’ve been pretty close lately but it’s in no way a romantic or sexual relationship, were just good friends.
    So that was a bit of background, but what was really strange, was that I couldn’t fit the entire penis in my mouth? It was large, but ugh it’s just so weird to think about. I have never performed am act like that in real life. I’m only a junior in high school if you couldn’t tell. There was also a doctor that walked in on all this, and he told me a had a problem and that why I loved dick so much.
    Weird weird weird. Why did my mind plague me with such unholy images.

    • RadOwl says:

      The imagery is symbolism and symbolism is used to make a point. The trick is to step back from the sexual connotations and see the potential for storytelling. Look at your dream as simply saying “trying to take on too much at once.” It could relate to your classes because the characters from the dream represent people in your classes. The characters don’t represent the people, instead they represent how they’re associated with you. See?

  3. Lorena says:

    My boyfriend dreamt of giving my son who is disabled a blow job! I understand dreams have certain meanings I am curious to know what this could possibly mean!!

    • RadOwl says:

      First, separate out the sexual part of the dream. It’s symbolism for something. Hard to say what the dream means without more detail, but I can give ideas.

      1. Your boyfriend is “breathing life” into your son. You say your boy is disabled. I bet he needs extra attention and care. Does your boyfriend give an extra level of attention and care and take personal interest? If yes, I can see how the dream imagery is a metaphor.

      2. Dreams like to use word plays as metaphors. I wonder, is caring for your boy a “blow” to your boyfriend’s “job?” Does it interfere directly or indirectly? Or, play with that idea of a job being a responsibility and caring for your boy is a responsibility. The dream could be making a comparison.

      3. A blow job requires a certain tenderness and care. Do you see what I mean?

      4. If your boyfriend is teaching your son like a father teaches a son, I can see how the dream could be a metaphor for that. He’s putting his attention and energy into teaching your son to be masculine, and the penis is the most closely identified with masculinity.

      I remember when I first found out that in some cultures, mothers suckle their sons’ penises to calm and soothe them. In Western culture that’ll get you locked up, but in other cultures it’s simply understood as a means to an end. If your boyfriend calms and soothes your son, the dream could be using a blow job as a metaphor for those actions.

      Whatever you do, understand that dreams use symbolism and this dream is definitely symbolism! It can be viewed in a very positive light if shows that your boyfriend will do anything to care for your son.

  4. Grace T says:

    I dream of seeing a dead prostitute’s body full of blood, her throat was slit (client’s cut off dick was close to her mouth on the floor so I think she was giving the client a blowjob before she died) but the client was not next to her dead body. Then I saw someone cleaning and sharpening his knife outside the brothel on the road.

    • RadOwl says:

      The imagery is tough to decipher without more context and sense of how you feel about it. Was it shocking? Horrifying? Curious? Did the prostitute or John get what they deserve or is it a terrible crime? Imagery like this could express something as personally mild as an argument about sex (argument because of the reference to oral activity and sex because of the reference to a sex act), to feeling rage about being treated like a prostitute. The best clue comes in the presence of the guy with the knife. A knife could symbolize an incisive wit or intellect or words that cut and harm. Cutting off the penis is a classic symbol of emasculation, but in this case it seems that everyone loses (prostitute loses her life; client loses his dick).

      From past experience with dreams featuring brothels, I know that it can characterize a place where a person works. When you feel like you are giving up something essential about yourself to do the job…yeah, you feel like a prostitute. I wonder in this case if the imagery combines both ideas, of feeling like a prostitute and feeling emasculated.

  5. wanda k Coleman says:

    In my dream i was sitting on a couch and a female friend of mine was sitting on another couch on the opposite side. There was an old man in a bath robe that sat on the middle couch. Then this other old man comes out of nowhere and starts giving a blow job to the first old man. Me and my friend were shocked at first and we even turned away at first and giggled. Then we just looked. I believe the old man that was giving wanted us to do the same to the first old man.

    • RadOwl says:

      A blow job involved the mouth and the mouth is used for talking, so dreams about blow jobs can tie in with the things you talk about. The fact that the men are old could be a way of saying that the subjects you talk about with your friend are old. You know when you reach that point of knowing someone so well that there’s nothing new to talk about? You can also look at it as the dream is speaking to the need to put some excitement into your life. Do something for the thrill of it.

  6. Jon Kassaw says:

    I hada dream of young woman, verybeatiful, long black hair, I was trying to take a taxi but she would get in car and seduce the drivers and perform oral sex and it made me disgusted and she offered me the same and I declined annoyed.

    • RadOwl says:

      Begin there and scan through your recent life looking for parallels. Leave out the blow job part, that’s only a way of creating a scenario that has some sort of parallel with what’s going on in your life. The most important consideration is the basic idea of turning down an attractive offer because it feels wrong to you. And remember to consider your inner life, too. Dreams can be based on events in your outer life, but usually they focus on your inner life and an “event” can be an entirely internal experience. I think in this case we can narrow down the possibilities to something that made a strong impact on you. Also, because you are a passenger in the story, the situation the dream connects with might be one where you are not in control or making the decisions.

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