Dreams that offer emotional closure

This week we look at dreams that offer emotional closure and learn something valuable to know about what dreams can do for you.

Dear Dreams 1-2-3:

Can dreams give me emotional closure? I ask because I ran into my ex girlfriend in a bar Friday night then had a dream that she and I went on a walk and talked things out. At the end we gave each other a hug and went our separate ways. When I woke up, I felt like I’d finally moved on from the relationship.

Signed,

Romeo Must Die

Dear Romeo:

Yes! Dreams bring to life unresolved situations or feelings and offer closure when you’re having trouble doing it while awake. Dreams can help you grieve the loss of a loved one, mend a broken heart, and let go of regrets, among other things. The fact that dreams can help with emotional closure should be included on the Ten Things to Know about Dreams. In no particular order:

  1. Dreams offer emotional closure.
  2. Dreams exaggerate to make their point.
  3. Dreams about conflict often illustrate battles between the head and heart.
  4. Dreams offer good advice.
  5. Dreams bring to light thoughts in the back of your mind.
  6. Your feelings are your best guide to interpreting your dreams.
  7. Everything in dreams is symbolic. The images shouldn’t be taken literally.
  8. The actions in dreams reveal the symbolism.
  9. Dreams compensate. The more one-sided you are while awake, the more one-sided your dreams are – one-sided in the opposite direction.
  10. Dreams show you yourself reflected back in a mirror that misses nothing.

 

Dear Dreams 1-2-3:

I broke up with my girlfriend a while ago and had a hard time letting go. I’ve been acting … hurt and angry. Last night I dreamed I was in my car and my ex came up to the window. I told her to get in the passenger seat but instead she asked me to roll down the window. She said that I had to let go of her, and that I’ve moved on before from a break up and can do it again. I woke up in the morning feeling like I can finally let go of her, and it’s the best I’ve felt in a long time.

Signed,

Getting Better

Dear Getting Better:

This is one of dozens of testimonies I have read about dreams offering emotional closure. You knew in the back of your mind that you had what you needed to let go and move on, you just needed the dream to remind you.

RadOwl

I'm the author of "Dreams 1-2-3: Remember, Interpret, and Live Your Dreams," and "The Dream Interpretation Dictionary: Symbols, Sign and Meanings." At reddit.com I'm known as RadOwl. I began studying dreams in the early 1990s and delved into all major schools of thought, especially the writings of Carl Jung.

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4 Responses

  1. Christine says:

    I just broke up with my ex boyfriend. He doesnt want to deal with anything. I ended up crying until i fell asleep. Next time i knew is that I woke up and Im feeling light and okay because I dream about him. I couldnt remember all the single details because when we dream sometimes we tend to forget suddenly. But All I can clearly remember is we both know what is happening and he understand the situation. And in my dream we talk about our situation Then he told me he will make sure i will go home safely we are both holding hands while walking then before I left we hugged and kiss. It feels like its like in reality because the situation relates in my life right now thats why i bumped up with this site becauss i was really looking if dreams can gives you closure. And i guess it really can give you that. You just have to believe in it because it you and your subconscious mind talking.

    • RadOwl says:

      When you are awake you are usually too preoccupied to do this deep level processing. That’s a big factor in why dreams help to provide emotional closure. I think you can feel confident that everything will turn out OK. Sorry to hear things didn’t work out. By the way, I have an article on this site about dreams about your ex.

  2. Amanda Licata says:

    My ex and I broke up over a year ago. He was the only person I ever fell in love with. I left him because of what I was going through. He never openly told me he didn’t want me in his life anymore. A few months ago I reached out to him because I needed emotional support. At which point I found out from his cousin and gf that he doesn’t want me around anymore. But he wouldn’t tell me himself. Last night I had a dream that I went to pick up some of my things but I had a couple of eggs that hatched when we met up outside. We then went inside. I’m grabbing my things from him at which point we ended up in his room. He’s sitting down and reached out his arms at which point he hugged me and was kissing me on the cheek. Next thing I remember I’m on the beach by myself where I see an old friend from high school. We were talking and then I woke up. I then started crying, it seemed like it should have been for closure but I was just sad all over again… I don’t understand.

    • RadOwl says:

      There seems to be a connection between the two eggs hatching and having two people tell you that your ex doesn’t want you in his life anymore. It might symbolize that you knew deep down you’d never get back together but you didn’t allow those thoughts and feelings out into the “open.”

      To me, it looks like closure in the dream because you move on from him and next find yourself in a nice environment (the beach) and see an old friend. That could be a way of saying you need a break or should reconnect with parts of your life that have been left behind. But you still have some grieving to do. Maybe the tears and sadness were just waiting to come out and the dream helped to trigger them. Now that they’re out of you, what’s next? There’s a strong suggestion in the dream that it’s time to move on.

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