Pregnancy Dreams Interpreted: What Do Pregnancy Dreams Mean?
Pregnancy Dreams Interpreted
Dreams about pregnancy are loaded with possibilities for symbolism. Most of the time, interpreting a dream about pregnancy focuses on the symbolism of pregnancy, giving birth, or children, but the first rule of the Dreams 1-2-3 system is to consider the obvious. The body has an early warning and detection system that communicates through dreams, so if you are female, sexually active, able to conceive, and dream about being pregnant, it’s a good idea to take a pregnancy test or see your doctor.
Once you rule out that possibility you can consider others.
Most dreams about being pregnant are not related to reproduction, and if they are related it is more likely to be about side issues like ability to conceive, feelings about being a parent, finding a partner, or preparations that need to be made to health, lifestyle, finances, job situation, or attitudes before getting pregnant. I’ll talk more about that in a moment. First though, I will list a few of the main ways dreams use pregnancy as symbolism.
- The dreamer is “pregnant” with an idea, thought, or feeling.
- The dreamer is “giving birth” to something new in their life or in themselves.
- Something is “gestating” inside the person.
Pregnancy can be used as a metaphor. People are said to be “pregnant” with ideas, thoughts, or feelings. Feelings grow or gestate within a person, for example, feelings of love for someone you’ve been dating. Giving birth is ready-made metaphor for something new in your life, like something new you have created or new traits in your personality. Dreams use these ideas to make metaphors that tell a story. After ruling out actual pregnancy as an option, I look for metaphors when interpreting dreams about being pregnant.
Men can dream about being pregnant and giving birth. It’s obviously symbolism because men can’t actually get pregnant. Here is a great example to illustrate how dreams can use the idea of “giving birth” to mean something new emerging in a person. The dreamer is a college-age male:
I dream that I am pregnant and in the hospital giving birth. The doctor is a friend, a guy I know, and the baby is actually his. He is the father.
I used this dream as an example in my book Dreams 1-2-3 because it is an awesome metaphor that vividly describes how the dreamer’s character is changing. The meaning is gleaned from the presence of the doctor-friend and the dreamer’s relationship with that person in waking life. I asked the dreamer about the personal characteristics of the friend in the dream, and he described the guy as hard-working and successful. The dreamer had aspirations to be more successful, too, and looked to his friend as an example.
The baby symbolizes new qualities emerging in the dreamer. His friend is the father of the baby because he planted the seed for the dreamer to become more hard-working and successful. The dream is about giving birth to new character traits.
Stretch the idea of giving birth further and you can interpret a dream of giving birth to a kitten, which symbolizes “kitten-like” qualities emerging in the dreamer. Kittens are playful and innocent, so the dream uses the metaphor of giving birth to kittens as a way of saying that the dreamer is becoming playful and innocent, too.
Also included under the umbrella of “giving birth” is creativity. A child is a creation, after all. As an example, take writing my first book. First, the story idea was “conceived.” Then it “gestated” as I researched and worked through the plot. It was fully formed after I finished writing and editing it. And to “give birth” I published it.
Compare that process to any creative endeavor. First an idea comes to mind, it grows, it matures, and after reaching a certain point it is finished, birthed. Creativity is compared to the process of gestation because creative ideas sometimes slowly develop within a person. It’s a labor of love, and labor is another idea connected with pregnancy and birth. Something you have to work hard at can be compared to the labor of giving birth.
A dream about giving birth to three dead fetuses symbolizes three art projects the person started but is unable to finish because her day job is getting in the way.
We’ve only scratched the surface of all the possibilities for pregnancy symbolism. Two more vivid examples come to mind. In one dream, a young man dreams that his ex-girlfriend is pregnant. It freaks him out and he immediately thinks of telling her to abort. He feels guilty, but the symbolism has nothing to do with pregnancy. It’s about leaving a part of himself behind with his ex. If you get someone pregnant, a part of yourself is literally inside the person. In this case what he left behind was a piece of his heart. In the other dream, a female has a recurring dream that she is pregnant and too far along to abort. She doesn’t remember having sex and is puzzled how she can be pregnant. She catches hell about it from her family. She feels like she is being blamed for something she did not do. That is the idea behind the symbolism. Being pregnant in this dream is connected with blame, shame, and turmoil in her family. In some family situations, getting pregnant is the worst thing that could happen. It’s a nightmare come true.
As a moderator at Reddit Dreams I run across dreams from child-bearing-age females who think they never want to have kids, then they have a dream that changes their mind, like this one:
I am 25 and have been slowly warming up to the idea of MAYBE having a kid one day, way in the future, and that’s only because my friend had a kid and her son is kind of fun and cool to be around. Back in my early twenties I was one of those ‘no way, never in my life,’ no maternal instinct kind of girls. Basically what I am getting at is that up until this point in my life I have not wanted or tried to have a kid, and I haven’t been sad that I don’t have any.
So last night I had a dream that I gave birth to a little baby boy. I named him Samuel Wallace (everyone called him Sammy) and he was absolutely beautiful. I remember looking at him for the first time and stroking his cheek and looking into his blue eyes (my eyes) and feeling love so strong my heart felt like it was going to give out. I looked at him and was happy that he had my boyfriend’s nose. He grabbed my finger and I could feel his heartbeat while I held him. I cried with joy unlike any I had felt before.
When I woke up and realized it was a dream I was devastated. I have almost broken into tears multiple times today over the sense of real loss I feel. Now all I can think about is how I want a baby. (Link to original post)
It’s one thing to say you don’t want to have a baby when it’s hypothetical. It’s another thing to look at your baby in your arms during a hyper-realistic dream and your mind completely changes, as it did for this dreamer. The dream made her realize that she really does want to have a child, and while it’s not going to happen right away, she can start to prepare. By analyzing the dream she realizes she wants to make sure her child does not grow up in the same financially strapped situation as she grew up in, so she decides to start a baby fund. This is a textbook example of what a dream can do to change your mind about something by creating a simulation that makes a possibility real.
If you have a dream like this and your reaction to the baby is “ew, do I have to touch it?” it’s a sign that you really don’t want to have children. But the dreamer’s reaction says it all. It reveals her true feelings.
But what if you dream you are pregnant and it really means you are pregnant? More pregnancy dreams interpreted.
Having covered some of the symbolic uses of pregnancy in dreams, we return to literal examples. After all, pregnancy and reproduction are major areas of life, certain to be subjects of your dreams. Dreams don’t often just come right out and say, “You’re pregnant, kiddo” (though they can). They are more likely to give nonverbal clues like a game of charades.
A clue dreams are known to give about pregnancy is provided through comparison to a tree or other growth of nature. Not only is the growth of a tree comparable to the growth of a person, but families are organized as “trees.” If you dream about planting a tree or a seed, you might be dreaming about becoming pregnant or starting a family.
The analogy extends to plants, vines, flowers and gardens, though there are other interpretations for these symbols. Don’t jump to conclusions. Just because a symbol is present in a dream doesn’t mean it automatically represents one thing or another. Something like planting a seed in a dream can be related to other uses of the analogy, such as planting an idea in the mind. The symbol is interpreted in the context of the dream. For example, if you plant a tree in a dream with your husband, it reinforces the idea of the dream being related to starting a family. If you plant a tree in our front yard because you don’t want your neighbors to able to see in your windows, the dream is probably related to privacy.
Dreams can also use young animals as a sign of pregnancy, or to represent young offspring. In these dreams the mother and father will sometimes be in a setting together and run across a kitten, puppy, or other young animal. Again, though, you should consider other interpretations, such as a young animal can represent innocence or immaturity instead of pregnancy.
Women have been known to dream of water when they are pregnant because water is associated with pregnancy – a woman “breaks her water” when she is ready to give birth, and a baby developing in the womb is surrounded by opaque embryonic fluid. Water is also associated with emotion, and pregnancy can be a very emotional experience.
Because fish live in water, and human and fish embryos are almost identical, pregnant women sometimes dream of fish or aquariums.
Pregnant women are also know to dream of worms, snakes, and other creatures that burrow. It’s a dramatic and symbolic way of describing a bodily process. The comparison is made because a fertilized egg literally burrows into the uterine lining.
Buildings, especially buildings under construction, pop up frequently in the dreams of pregnant women. Buildings can relate to areas of life that are “under construction,” and in dreams related to pregnancy the building might be a maternity ward, day care center, or baby room.
Driving can be a metaphor for “going somewhere in life,” and a child seat in the back can symbolize moving forward with a child under one’s care.
Another sign of pregnancy is the frequency and intensity of dreams, both of which spike because of hormonal changes in pregnant women.
Of course, dreams can be direct, too. Some women report being told by a dream character that they are pregnant. The character is frequently a mom, grandma, or someone else the dreamer knows who has been pregnant and/or had children. Or the character can be a physician, particularly an obstetrician. And don’t forget the father: he can appear in dreams to announce the good news, or he can actually have dreams about his partner being pregnant.
I’ve read reports of women dreaming that they took a positive pregnancy test, and soon after found out they were really pregnant. They also report shopping for baby clothes, or related activities, with their moms. The presence of a mom in a dream that includes other clues related to pregnancy can indicate the dream is referring to actual pregnancy and is not a metaphor, because one’s own mother is the strongest association most people have with motherhood. Then again, dreams like these can be related to thoughts or feelings about pregnancy, not to actually being pregnant.
The most direct dreams about pregnancy involve giving birth or seeing the child already born. Straight up. No symbolism. No oblique references.
Here are quotes from women who discovered through their dreams that they were pregnant, or about to be. Some are paraphrased for readability:
- “I had a lot of dreams about the sex of the baby and they were right.”
- “I dreamed I had a son, then two weeks later found out I was pregnant.”
- “I had a dream I had a girl, and three days later was the first day of my missed period.” (The dreamer was pregnant and delivered a baby girl.)
- “The night I got pregnant I had a dream I was pregnant and had to tell my mom, my cousin, and my boyfriend (the father).”
- “Before I found out I was preggo, I started dreaming every night of being preggo or giving birth.”
- “I found out about both of my pregnancies through dreams. My first (pregnancy), I was eight weeks along and not paying attention to my body or cycles because they were so irregular to begin with. That time I had a dream about a sonogram with a baby on the screen. Then with my current pregnancy I had a dream with a positive home pregnancy test.”
- “I had a dream I was pregnant with triplets. Sure enough, a few months later I was pregnant with triplets. They’re five months old now. Crazy stuff!”
As I discussed previously, some dreams about pregnancy and giving birth are related to preparing for pregnancy. Think of it as a simulation. In the dream you believe you really are pregnant or have a child. The dreams themselves can speak to preparations that need to be made. Here is a dream that shows what I mean:
I dream that I am pregnant and give birth to a baby. My first thought is I’m not going to be able to keep it because there is no chance I can get the time off of work. So I bundle the baby in a white carrier bag and leave it behind my workplace. When I come back the next day, the bag is gone.
This dreamer’s fear was that the dream was telling her she was some kind of monster because she got rid of the baby. But the dream is an illustration of the fact she wants to have a baby when her work situation will allow it. Putting the baby in a carrier bag and stowing it away shows that she is saving motherhood for later in life, when she is in a better situation. To make it possible she has to find a job which will allow her the time off.
In a series of vivid maternal dreams, a female dreamer works through many issues related to pregnancy and raising a child, illustrating the ways she has to prepare before seriously considering the possibility: graduate from college, become more financially stable, get comfortable with being a nurturer. At the same time, the dreams are helping her prepare for a career in an occupation that requires her to be a caregiver.
In another dream I interpreted, a woman dreamed about three children that were hers, even though she doesn’t have any children. They were children she had miscarried. Unborn children can appear in dreams. Women (and men) can dream about their future children and see every detail ahead of time — they even know from the dream what to name them!
Dreams tell stories many different ways. While often symbolic in meaning, pregnancy dreams can also be literal. There are certain symbols – seeds and young animals, for example – that are known to appear in dreams indicating the dreamer is, or is about to be, pregnant. However, every symbol has alternative interpretations. It’s wise to consider a literal interpretation first – if you or your partner really is pregnant, you want to know as soon as possible. Just be careful to avoid jumping to conclusions.
You can read more about dream symbolism and my easy-to-follow system of dream interpretation in my book. Available in print and for Kindle at Amazon. Just click on the cover image. Published by Hampton Roads. Available at retailers other than Amazon, such Barnes & Noble and Abe Books.